Sharon Vidano: Empowering Women to Redefine Their Lives

Sharon Vidano’s journey is a powerful testament to transformation and purpose. After a successful 15-year career as a criminal defense attorney, Sharon transitioned into a new role as a Transformational Life Coach, guiding women to break through limitations and embrace lives filled with love, purpose, and empowerment. As a certified DreamBuilder™ Coach and Life Mastery Consultant, she blends her expertise in law, wellness strategies, and universal principles to help her clients navigate life’s transitions and unlock their true potential. Today, Sharon is a beacon of inspiration, empowering women to create meaningful change and live lives they truly love.

You had a successful 15-year career as a criminal defense attorney. What inspired you to transition into transformational life coaching? 

As a criminal defense attorney, I witnessed the heartbreaking cycle of clients returning to the court system, trapped in a relentless pattern that seemed impossible to break. No matter how passionately I defended them, many felt powerless—caught in circumstances they believed they could never escape.

I saw generations of the same family arrested for crimes committed together, and far too many individuals turning to substance abuse just to numb the pain of their reality. It was in those moments that I had a profound realization: true change must happen long before someone steps into a courtroom.

The real transformation begins with a shift in mindset, perspective, and self-love. When people learn how to communicate, cope, and build healthy relationships, they gain the tools to break free from destructive patterns. These skills—compassion, resilience, and emotional intelligence—shouldn’t be a privilege; they should be a foundation for everyone.

I knew then that my calling was greater than legal defense. I wanted to impact lives at a deeper, more meaningful level—before the crisis struck—so that fewer people would have to face the system at all. That’s why I chose this path: to empower people to rewrite their own stories and create a future filled with possibility, hope, and lasting change.

As a certified DreamBuilder™ Coach and Life Mastery Consultant, what core principles guide your coaching?  

The core principles that guide my coaching are rooted in an unshakable truth:

You are more powerful than any circumstance, situation, or condition you may face.

This power isn’t something external—it already exists within you. It is the divine force that beats your heart and fills your lungs with each breath, effortlessly and without question. You don’t have to earn it, search for it, or prove yourself worthy of it. It is simply yours.

When we learn to quiet the noise of the world and truly listen—to that still, sacred connection with God—we awaken to the limitless power that has been within us all along. And from that place, we gain the clarity, strength, and courage to create a life we truly love.

Your coaching covers love, relationships, career, and personal fulfilment. What is the most rewarding aspect of helping women in these areas?

The most rewarding part of guiding women in love, relationships, career, and personal fulfilment is witnessing their transformation—not just in the results they achieve, but in who they become along the way.

There’s a moment in coaching when we pause to reflect on where they were and where they are now—and the growth is undeniable. It’s in those moments that I am reminded why I do this work.

Take Mykie, for example. When we first started working together, she carried unresolved trauma from a past relationship—baggage that kept her from fully embracing the love she longed for. She felt unworthy, burdened by guilt, and struggled to receive the affection her new boyfriend offered.

But as she deepened her self-love and began making bold moves toward a life she truly desired, something shifted. She realized her boyfriend wasn’t the right match for her, and instead of forcing it—like the old version of her would have—she lovingly released him. She recognized that her past people-pleasing tendencies had kept her in situations that didn’t serve her highest good. Now, she’s thriving, radiating confidence, and fully embracing this chapter of her life. She’s happy, whole, and open to love—not from a place of need, but from a place of deep self-worth.

Then there’s Amber. She was overwhelmed and deeply unhappy in her career. The stress was taking a toll on her health, and she knew if she continued down that path, medication would be inevitable. But she wanted more for herself.

Through our work together, Amber gained clarity on what truly lit up her soul. With the right tools and guidance, she made a courageous decision—she left her unfulfilling job and launched her own company. Today, she’s thriving, building a team that reflects the same mindset and values that transformed her own life. She now requires her team members to embrace this mindset training, ensuring a cohesive, empowered, and high-performing workplace.

These transformations are why I do what I do.

The breakthroughs, the confidence, the joy on my clients’ faces when they step into a life they never thought was possible—it fills my heart with so much gratitude.

This is more than coaching. It’s about unlocking the limitless potential within each woman I work with, so she can step fully into the life she was always meant to live. And that… is everything.

For someone new to transformational coaching, what’s the first step toward creating a life they love?

The first step is simple, yet profound: Permit yourself to ask, “What would I love?”

So many people never even ask that question because they’ve already convinced themselves it’s pointless. Why dream if I can’t have it? They believe their circumstances—finances, health, education, location—are immovable barriers keeping them from even imagining a life they truly desire.

But here’s the truth: The mere fact that you have a longing for something more means that possibility already exists for you.

Once you permit yourself to dream, the next step is to decide—decide that you are worthy of that life, decide that you can have it. From there, it’s about taking one step forward… then another… and another.

And yes, that can feel scary. That’s where I come in. I walk alongside my clients, locking arms with them as they take each step—supporting them, guiding them, and reminding them that they are far more powerful than any circumstance they face.

You don’t have to do this alone. Your transformation begins the moment you say yes to yourself.

You were raised in a traditional Korean Filipino household with strict academic and social expectations. How did this upbringing shape your early years?

Growing up in a Korean-Filipino household with strict academic and social expectations deeply shaped my beliefs about myself.

If my grades weren’t perfect, they weren’t good enough—I was once scolded for a B+ because it was too close to an A-. If I expressed my thoughts, it was considered “talking back.” Over time, I internalized a belief that I wasn’t enough and that my voice didn’t matter.

I hold no anger toward my parents. I always knew they loved me, even if the words were never spoken. They were doing their best—the only way they knew how.

Still, that belief—that I wasn’t enough, that my voice didn’t hold value—followed me into adulthood. And perhaps, in some way, that’s what led me to become an attorney—to build my voice, to strengthen my confidence, to prove to myself that I could be heard.

For much of my life, I carried these beliefs as if they were true.

But they weren’t. And once I realized that everything began to change.

You met and fell in love with your college boyfriend, who later became your husband. How did your journey with self-worth and confidence impact your relationship?

Looking back on my marriage to my college boyfriend, I can now see that it was rocky from the very beginning. We dated for seven years before getting married, and what followed was nearly a decade of an on-and-off relationship filled with emotional ups and downs.

At the time, I didn’t have the awareness I have now—but I realize I carried deep-rooted beliefs that I wasn’t worthy, and that my voice didn’t matter. And because of those unhealed beliefs, I attracted—and clung to—a partner who reflected exactly how I felt about myself.

He was a good provider, and I don’t discount that. But emotionally, he was distant and unavailable. I stayed, hoping things would change, until one day I looked at our life and realized: that when our relationship was at its best, it felt more like a friendship than a marriage.

And I knew in my heart… I wanted more.  That was the moment I found the courage to ask for a divorce. It wasn’t easy—but it was the beginning of everything.

After the divorce, I fully stepped into my journey of transformation. I began working with a coach, and everything started to shift. I grew my self-worth. I found my voice. I learned to love myself on a soul-deep level—and in that process, I grew closer to God.

And when I finally loved me… that’s when I met the man who is now my husband.

This marriage is the kind I once believed only existed in movies. He is thoughtful, kind, and grounded in a servant-hearted love that continues to bless me every day.

I am so grateful for him—and for the path that brought me here.

If you could give one piece of advice to a woman standing at a crossroads in her life, what would it be?

I would gently invite her to close her eyes, take a few deep breaths, and quiet her mind…

Then, I’d ask her to honestly explore this:
What am I feeling dissatisfied with right now?

Because of that feeling of dissatisfaction—it’s not failure. It’s not wrong.
It’s a whisper from God.
A divine nudge saying, “There’s something more for you.”
Something that would make your heart come alive and your soul exhale.

From there, ask yourself:
What would I love?

Let the answer rise. It may be quiet at first.
It may not make complete sense yet.
But trust it. Lean into it.

And then—get support. Whether it’s me or another coach who deeply resonates with you, don’t walk that path alone. We’re not meant to.

Make the decision. Take the step.
Even if it’s scary. Even if it’s messy.
Because here’s what I know for sure:

Growth is rarely convenient.
It’s often uncomfortable.
But it is always worth it.

And most importantly—so are you.