My young son teaches me to enjoy the simple things in life
By Nika Jazaael
Marina Pearson is an international best selling author and international speaker; her work has been included on big media platforms such as Sky TV, Marie Claire and ITV. She has also been invited to speak at TEDx and she regularly writes for the Huffington Post. Marina shares with us in this exclusive interview about when she nearly committed suicide at the age of 21 after years of depression and anxiety, to how she managed to turn her life around. Today her biggest inspiration is her husband, who always pushes her to think through her own thoughts and what is possible in this life.
Tell me about your childhood, where did you grow up and how was it?
I grew up in the UK to Spanish and English parents and I spent most of the time living in the south of England. My mother would always take me to the north of Spain where my family are from as she was super passionate about me being bilingual in Spanish and English. My childhood was not the happiest, as far as I can remember. I was brought up in a very privileged way but for some reason I would have moments of deep sadness. My father was away a lot at the time and as a result of my parents age gap I didn’t have a close relationship to my father during this time. He was 58 when he had me and came from a generation of “children must be seen and not heard”! My mum had to deal with a lot and when I was born she was having to look after her mum who had cancer. Bringing a child into the world while seeing her mum, the one person she was closest to in the world, who was dying of cancer, cannot have been easy on her. This I suppose did have an effect on me, as I was a super sensitive child who wanted to be surrounded by peace.
Tell me about your biggest inspiration in life?
My husband is a big inspiration to me. He is always thinking big and acting on his dreams. He teaches me to break through my own limited thinking about what is possible and inspires me to play a bigger game. He reminds me that we are not what we think and that as true limitless beings we can really create what we desire and do so from a place of fun and collaboration. And if I am allowed another – my clients inspire me. I see them transform and grow and I am always reminded of the innate capacity we have for insight and how powerful we are as human beings that we have this innate capacity to transform ourselves without anything other than our own wisdom.
When did you realise that you wanted to start helping people and why is this important to you?
I knew at the age of 18 that I really wanted to help people, which is why I wanted to study psychology at university. But I changed my mind when I realised that I wasn’t in a fit position myself to help others, as I couldn’t even help myself. At the time I lived with a lot of insecurity, that came from my sensitivity and misunderstanding of how the world worked that I indulged in an eating disorder and started smoking and drinking heavily. It wasn’t long before I turned to recreational drugs to stop the noise inside of my head. It was at the age of 21 that I was so fed up of living with so much pain and darkness that I took the step to end my life with sleeping pills. As I hit rock bottom, I knew that I had to look at what was going on and started to buy self-development books. During this time I shut myself away at home to make peace with myself, which I did to a certain extent but during my twenties I would go through peaks and troughs of depression until I hit thirty when I hit rock bottom again. It was at the point of my divorce that a light bulb moment went on and I realised that the only person who had done this to herself was me and that I needed to change. It was at this point that I threw myself on my personal development journey. Along the way I met many people who helped me and then one day I knew it was time to give back. I knew that I wanted to help because of what I had been through and I just never wanted anyone to suffer unnecessarily as I had. Going through what I had been through I knew that I could help and make a difference.
If you could take over the world what would be the main important thing or change for you to make?
Liberate women from all unnecessary suffering so as to influence the next generation by owning their truth and wisdom that permeates through them.
Is it difficult to combine motherhood with business and your professional life?
It used to be. When I first had my son Leo, I was exhausted all the time. I realise now that it was my body’s way of sharing that it was out of balance. Since waking up to this truth, I have done what I can to look after myself and return back to the way I used to be. Now it’s not difficult to combine motherhood with business as I no longer feel guilty when I am away from Leo or when I spend time away from my business. I no longer feel exhausted and really enjoy my time that I have with my son and the time I spend in the business. As I have become more present to the moment, what once were problems of juggling seem to have disappeared and I now delight in what this moment brings me much more. In truth, my son helps me slow down and come back to myself again and again and again. He detects when I am not being present and reminds me of that with his behaviour, which I truly appreciate.
I no longer feel exhausted and really enjoy my time that I have with my son and the time I spend in the business.
I used to work 18 hour days and work during the weekends and now I work 4 days a week and take Fridays and weekends out to be with Leo and my husband. I love the fact that Leo teaches me to slow down enjoy the simple things in life. I know that my only job as a mum is to be in a good feeling and bring that feeling home, the more I do, the more I listen to my intuition and replace juggle for flow. From a logistical perspective, we have incredible support and now that the guilt no longer plays a part in my life, I am free to enjoy the support we have and Leo has such a great time.
What keeps you motivated and what are your life goals?
I have always been a highly motivated and driven person. So I don’t need to motivate myself – I just take action. My work motivates me and seeing female business owners (and especially mums) go from living a business and life of stress and worry to one of effortlessness, connection and love, is enough for me. Sure, there are days where I get distracted but I love the work I do, the women I support and the creative projects that I am part of.
Some of my life goals include
- Writing a bestselling book with a major publisher
- Meeting Oprah and being interviewed by her
- Having Arianne Huffington write a testimonial for my book
- Having another baby
- Living 6 months of the year in the mountains and 6 months of the year in Spain (where we are now)
- Going heli skiing again
- Recording my own album
Has being a woman been beneficial in your business?
I suppose so yes, as my clients can really relate to me and I can really relate to them. I work with quite a few mothers in business and as a mother, there is an acknowledgement of being in that position. There are some unsaid things that are understood and I believe that women want to see other women lead as it reminds them that they can do it too. If you look at who is leading in the personal development space, the majority are men. And as a woman I think that women are seeing that sisters are doing it for themselves!